Using Others or Saying Thank You

Life is sometimes a bit of a minefield especially where relationships with others are concerned.

There are often situations where one person needs the help of another and the other gladly gives their help. However, if the person who needs the help does not treat the other person with kindness, respect and gratitude then they can be left feeling used. 

The person who feels used then has a natural reaction to this which often starts with anger, disappointment and regret at having put themselves in that position and sadly then tells others of the situation so that it has an effect on others perceptions.

So, isn't it so much better to just be a decent human being in the first place, and treat others with kindness, love and respect. Then if you need some help at a season in your life, you can ask people for their help and then say thank you afterwards. Perhaps you could then offer your help to others also. Mutual help, respect and appreciation just makes the world a nicer place to be in.

I found out recently that I had been used by someone and thankfully there is enough distance to allow me to not get bitter about it but to just move on in grace and dignity and just remember not to put myself in that situation again. Sometimes, you've just got to chalk this stuff up to experience and still be the generous, caring, helpful person you always have been but with a more cautious and thoughtful attitude.

Here's a song from the show Nashville called Used, although it's about a girl who stupidly allowed herself to get used by a guy.

http://youtu.be/cdIeoqO7jgA